tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7318606957645672999.post9127334864175341445..comments2023-09-29T06:24:50.012-06:00Comments on A POST-MORMON LIFE: The Peculiar Heart-Break Of A Mormon Weddingpostmormongirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13455759739126093761noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7318606957645672999.post-4696061071692793312013-04-17T22:06:00.063-06:002013-04-17T22:06:00.063-06:00http://rationalfaiths.com/the-inclusivity-of-spani...http://rationalfaiths.com/the-inclusivity-of-spanish-weddings/<br />New blogs, same topic. We have to do something about this divisive policy.Jeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11564546517972104958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7318606957645672999.post-64743531134422895512013-02-27T08:53:07.338-06:002013-02-27T08:53:07.338-06:00dolly anna, I hope you went to your siblings weddi...dolly anna, I hope you went to your siblings weddings. I assume from your post that your motive wasn't to create a disturbance or to mock the Mormon beliefs. It's was to be a part of a family tradition and an important ceremony.<br /><br />But if you chose not to attend that would speak volumes to others in your family. Whatever you decided; I'm sure it was for the greater good. Kudos to you for being thoughtful about it.Just Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17617582702842642998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7318606957645672999.post-33958408735189609472013-02-27T08:47:21.649-06:002013-02-27T08:47:21.649-06:00Leaving the church at age 36 with three children s...Leaving the church at age 36 with three children still being raised actively in the church; I knew there was a strong possibility I would not be attending their weddings. As it turned out my oldest son left the church and married a beautiful young lady; they had their ceremony at a gorgeous vineyard in Oregon. My daughter, on the other hand, married in the temple. Where my partner, of many years, and I sat in the waiting room with the children waiting for our daughter to come out of the temple. It was difficult but expected. Myself and many in my family who have left or been excommunicated have started a tradition of standing outside the temple in what we call the 'Circle of Shame'. We lovingly taunt other members of the family; tempting them with the phrase "...want to hang out with the cool kids?"Just Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17617582702842642998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7318606957645672999.post-23386994123692849902012-09-03T07:23:37.953-06:002012-09-03T07:23:37.953-06:00Interesting that in the US you have to wait for a ...Interesting that in the US you have to wait for a year to go to the temple after a civil marriage. Here in the UK, where ALL marriages must by law be held in a public place, couples marry in the local meetinghouse or civil Registry Office, and then go off to the temple immediately afterwards.Lanzeckihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13640090522150430202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7318606957645672999.post-46682779023047053002012-08-02T17:34:41.377-06:002012-08-02T17:34:41.377-06:00I'll won't be able to see my brothers, but...I'll won't be able to see my brothers, but he didn't get to go to mine (temple) so I guess that's fair game?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7318606957645672999.post-75537742362930812362012-08-02T15:47:35.841-06:002012-08-02T15:47:35.841-06:00My sister got married when my husband and I were s...My sister got married when my husband and I were still questioning and we attended her wedding. We are fully out now and couldn't do that now but I don't feel bad about it at all. I think you should still go if you can.The Morris storyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00656594691432601578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7318606957645672999.post-85295631874890164302012-07-09T23:35:26.308-06:002012-07-09T23:35:26.308-06:00That's a tough decision - I guess whatever mak...That's a tough decision - I guess whatever makes you most comfortable. And there is nothing wrong with wanting to be included in your siblings weddings, even in spite of differences in beliefs. The Mormon Church is one of the very, very few religions that imposes that requirement. Even my in-laws (very, very orthodox Hindus, live in one of the most conservative parts of India), when they planned my wedding, were able to include everyone in spite of religious differences. And I have made no attempts to convert to Hinduism, although I do participate in their holidays.postmormongirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13455759739126093761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7318606957645672999.post-28691933517696806322012-07-09T23:30:14.473-06:002012-07-09T23:30:14.473-06:00I'm exiting the door, but slowly. At this poi...I'm exiting the door, but slowly. At this point I can still attend the temple for my siblings upcoming ceremonies ....but do I want to? Is it blasphemous to attend if you don't really believe but don't want to feel left out? But I guess there is a greater need for babysitters ... :)polly composthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17001127049046286590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7318606957645672999.post-49946454587916232292012-07-09T09:36:32.279-06:002012-07-09T09:36:32.279-06:00I'm so very, very sorry Mindy. I really wish ...I'm so very, very sorry Mindy. I really wish the Mormon Church would relax their stance on having civil ceremonies, as this is such a heart-breaking fact for the majority of families. *cyber hugs*postmormongirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13455759739126093761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7318606957645672999.post-14624957264559086462012-07-09T09:31:21.686-06:002012-07-09T09:31:21.686-06:00Missed my daughters wedding this march .....Missed my daughters wedding this march .....Mindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15132063410888342166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7318606957645672999.post-87862700662953763232012-06-28T20:35:32.574-06:002012-06-28T20:35:32.574-06:00I am so sorry for your pain. Just know that you a...I am so sorry for your pain. Just know that you are not alone and that I am hope you can find peace. *cyber hugs*postmormongirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13455759739126093761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7318606957645672999.post-22032845717889367442012-06-28T20:32:15.892-06:002012-06-28T20:32:15.892-06:00I know how you feel. Four of my siblings married i...I know how you feel. Four of my siblings married in the temple, so I didn't get to participate in their weddings at all. When the fifth one marries, it will be the same thing all over again. I thought I was over it, but reading your post makes me want to cry...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com