Wednesday, November 7, 2012
Post-Election Doomsday Predictions
I for one am neither surprised nor the slightest bit dismayed by my political antithesis's re-election. We know what leads to the final 'passing of the torch' and this just hastens the day and solidifies the resolve and preparation of those who are already well entrenched.
It is completely disenchanting to hear so many people of the same faith in me post such hateful, extremist, end of the world, life, liberty and happiness comments. If you are a true follower of Christ and of the LDS faith you should have hope in your own life-knowing that YOU determine your own happiness. Civility and compromise are qualities that we should all exemplify.
These quotes showed up in my Facebook feed this morning – both of the authors are Mormons that I grew up with. Post-election day is always a let-down; people win and people lose. Some people are happy, some people are sad, some people get angry. This particular election was historic; Mitt Romney was the first Mormon presidential candidate of a major political party. Romney’s candidacy sparked an interest in Mormonism that I have never seen before; this election season has been a roller coaster of emotions, as I have watched the media cover the issues that had such a profound impact on my life.
As a child, I sat through many lessons about the Second Coming of Christ. One teacher taught us that two missionaries would be shot in Jerusalem and that their bodies would lie in the streets for the period of three days. Another teacher told me that the Saints would gather in Missouri and that there would be a period of intense natural disasters. Families were commanded to store a year’s supply of food, in preparation for hard times and famine. After the Second Coming, after all of the chaos and terror, we were taught that Christ would usher in the Millennium, which would be a thousand-year period of peace and prosperity, when Mormonism would spread throughout the world. The Second Coming of Christ is a strong belief within Mormonism; a video that went viral last week indicates that even Romney believes in the predictions surrounding the Second Coming. The leaders never made predictions as to when the Second Coming would take place but we were warned to always be ready, as it could happen at any moment.
Growing up, my father would say that “one day the Constitution will be hanging by a thread and the leaders of this country will look to the Mormon leaders to save it.” This statement, purportedly made by the founder of the Mormon Church, Joseph Smith, is commonly referred to as the White Horse Prophecy. I am not sure how many Mormons still ascribe to this prophecy. After Romney’s loss, a quick glance through the ex-mormon discussion boards indicates that more Mormons believe this prophecy than I realized. Many ex-mormons have reported the doomsday predictions of their Mormon relatives. Glenn Beck appears to believe in the White Horse prophecy, although I have always considered Glenn Beck to be a more extreme example of Mormonism. Nevertheless, there is a doomsday attitude that goes deeper than just the sorrow and fear associated with a candidate’s loss; I find myself wondering how many Mormons view this as a sign of the Second Coming.
Friday, November 2, 2012
Election Day 2008: Politics, Religion, & Family
The
night of Election Day, 2008, I found myself in the library writing a
paper. Genetics lab – and the fly report
– is infamous at Cornell, the bane of many aspiring biologists. As it turned out, this report was due the day
after Election Day. The morning of
Election Day, I woke up early, rode the bus to the local town hall, entered the
red-curtained booth, pulled the lever for my choice in candidates, and then
headed back to the library to write my report.
I worked late into the night; I could hear the cheers outside the window
as I alternated between writing about fly genetics and checking CNN every half
hour for election updates. I finished my
fly report a few hours after the race was called and then crashed on the couch
at lab for a few hours of shut-eye. I
was both thrilled with the Obama victory and exhausted from the demands of a
heavy course-load. I fell asleep
dreaming of a better tomorrow.
The
next day, as I headed to class wearing the rumpled clothing from the previous
day, I started hearing murmurs about a Proposition 8 that had been passed in
California. I was confused about what
Prop 8 was – something to do with gay marriage.
Since it was a California initiative, I assumed the proposition was in
support of gay marriage. I had been so
focused on the presidential election that I did not stop to think about what
else was going on in the rest of the country.
But, as I later found out, Proposition 8 was not in support of gay
marriage; it was a ban against gay marriage.
A little
while later, I began hearing about the Mormons and the role they played in getting Prop 8 passed. There are no
words to describe my devastation when I found out that the religion I was
raised in – and that my family actively supports – had invested so much time
and energy into stripping human beings of their right to marry. Before Election Day 2008, Mormonism had been a
part of my past, an identity that infused my up-bringing and had been responsible
for shaping my character. I had
complicated feelings about the culture and the authorities but Mormonism was
simply a quirky part of my up-bringing. My
identity as an agnostic humanist is owed, in part, to the rigor associated with
leaving Mormonism.
After Election Day 2008, my
relationship with Mormonism became much more complicated. There is no way to sugar-coat this issue - I
became ashamed of my up-bringing, of my family's association with a religion that had
actively campaigned to remove the rights of both friends and
acquaintances. With that initial flush of shame set in an
even deeper shame; how could I be ashamed of the religion that my family loves
so much? Pre-Prop-8, I had made a tenuous peace with Mormonism. Post-Prop-8, I found myself battling hurt and anger all over again.
There is a long history of
homophobia within the Mormon Church; Boyd K. Packer, one of the most out-spoken authorities on homosexuality, is next in line to become the
President of the Mormon Church. In 2010,
Boyd K. Packer, in a telecast watched by Mormons the world over, said "Some suppose that they were pre-set
and cannot overcome what they feel are inborn tendencies toward the impure and
unnatural. Not so! Why would our Heavenly Father do that to anyone?”*
Should the current leader, Thomas S. Monson, die, Boyd K. Packer will assume
leadership of the Mormon Church and be seen as a modern-day prophet, with the
power to commune with God and receive revelation for the Mormon Church at
large. Last month, in another world-wide televised
broadcast, the General Authority Dallin H. Oaks gave a speech titled “Protect the Children”, the topic of which was the danger of single-parent homes. Following his descriptions of the dangers
associated with children growing up without married parents, he proceeded to
state “We should assume the same
disadvantages for children raised by couples of the same gender.”
The Mormon Church’s stance on homosexuality
– along with their actions to actively suppress the rights of gays and lesbians
– is heart-breaking. At this point in
time, gay Mormons only have a limited set of options - mixed-orientation
heterosexual marriage, celibacy, or leaving the faith they were raised to
believe in. All of these are
heart-breaking options.
The truth is, I struggle to balance
the love I have for my family with my concerns about the teachings of
Mormonism. I am uncomfortable with prevalent insularity of Mormon culture, the
active hostility towards members who leave, and the swift punishment that is
meted out to members who express views that are not in alignment with the teachings of authorities. As a former Mormon with a
devout Mormon family, I find myself in a tenuous position. How do I balance my two worlds? How do I reconcile the love I have for my
family – for whom Mormonism is both an identity and a way of life - with my
deep unease over the intolerant actions of Mormon authorities? With every piece of writing, every
conversation, I find myself walking a fine line, one that carries the constant risk
of falling. How do I balance my own
personal convictions with the convictions of my family?
I love my Mormon family but
according to Mormon theology, I have thrown away my chances of being with them
for eternity. To my family, the most
hurtful part of my apostasy must be the simple fact that I will no longer be
with them for eternity. The obligations
of Mormonism that consume their lives are no longer part of my world-view; I am
no longer on the path to an eternity spent with my family, in spite of the fact
that I was raised with a full knowledge of the obligations that the Mormon
Heavenly Father expects of me. I am unable to grasp the concept of a loving God who requires rituals and a belief in a specific theology as a requirement to enter Heaven.
Heartbreak is found on both sides of the divide between Mormons and former Mormons.
Another Election Day is approaching,
historic for the fact that the Republican nominee is a devout Mormon. Once again, I find myself wondering what
impact the future will have on my relationship with my family and my
up-bringing. I have been watching this Mormon
moment, wondering what impact politics and religion will have on the relationships between
faithful members and former members. The
MormonThink controversy has reminded me of the omniscience of the Mormon
authorities and their willingness to suppress any truths that threaten the
church’s image. I wonder what will
happen when the eyes of the media are diverted from the actions of the Mormon Church. Will the actions of the Mormon Church cause a
further rift between faithful Mormons and non-believer family members or will the Mormon authorities work to create long-lasting
changes for a more tolerant future?
*Note: The transcript for Boyd K. Packer's speech was later amended following a public outcry. For that reason, I referred you to the original video of his speech; for a more detailed explanation of the changes made, I refer you to this article written by a gay-rights website.
Wednesday, October 31, 2012
Partisanship
We live in an era that is becoming more and more partisan by the day. I am still young - perhaps this has always been the case. All I know is that since I have reached adulthood, I have been watching this country slide into an us-vs-them mentality. Liberals versus conservatives. Christian versus non-Christian. Theists versus non-theists. Evolution versus creationism. Citizens versus immigrants.
What troubles me the most is that people seem to accept these divisions as inevitable. I acknowledge that working together in spite of differences is challenging. I have strong opinions on many issues - in general I am quite liberal. I support access to contraceptives, health-care reform that allows uninsured people with pre-existing conditions to obtain affordable insurance, increased funding for education, and the continuation of public programs that support people who are in tough circumstances. At some point in our lives, we all need a helping hand, whether it be in the form of education grants, food stamps, unemployment benefits, social security benefits, or a myriad of other public services. As valuable as private charities are in providing aid, these services have limitations - limited funding and geographic availability being the two main drawbacks.
I don't know what the future will hold but I do know that this election is making me very uncomfortable. I have watched Mitt Romney change positions with an alarming regularity; his only consistency seems to be that he is inconsistent. What worries me even more than his inconsistency seems to be the fact that his tactic is working. What does this say about our society - that it is OK to change positions depending on the audience? My only wish is that I knew what Mitt Romney believed in.
Obama isn't a perfect candidate. But overall, he has consistently espoused values that I believe in. He has worked to reform healthcare, to pass laws that provide a path to citizenship for the undocumented youth in this country. He has worked to increase funding for research and come out in support of gay marriage. He signed the Lilly Ledbetter Act into law, which provides women with more options for fighting pay discrimination. Even more than that, he has shown a willingness to work with the other side. I am tired of watching ideologies and in-fighting stand in the way of practical solutions for this country. From what I have seen over the past four years, he is a person who is working to make a better life for everyone in this country. My vote for Obama - which I cast yesterday - was in support of what he has achieved as president, as well as the values he espouses.
I had hoped this election would be about the issues. Instead, this election has been more about sound-bites and zingers. In Mitt Romney, I don't see a candidate that understands the issues of low-to-middle income families. He doesn't seem to understand what it is like to worry about paying for college or the challenges of finding a job without having connections or the challenges of finding affordable health insurance. He doesn't seem to understand the value of public services that help people in need. I have a huge respect for the private sector. However, the private sector is a profit-driven enterprise and with this comes certain limitations. I do not think disaster relief or educational enterprises (including public programming) are suited to the private sector. Given the staggering costs of health-care in this country - which is primarily a private-sector enterprise - I no longer think that health-insurance companies should be a profit-driven venture.
To quote Jon Huntsman Jr, "When was the last time we sat down as a people and talked about solutions?"
What troubles me the most is that people seem to accept these divisions as inevitable. I acknowledge that working together in spite of differences is challenging. I have strong opinions on many issues - in general I am quite liberal. I support access to contraceptives, health-care reform that allows uninsured people with pre-existing conditions to obtain affordable insurance, increased funding for education, and the continuation of public programs that support people who are in tough circumstances. At some point in our lives, we all need a helping hand, whether it be in the form of education grants, food stamps, unemployment benefits, social security benefits, or a myriad of other public services. As valuable as private charities are in providing aid, these services have limitations - limited funding and geographic availability being the two main drawbacks.
I don't know what the future will hold but I do know that this election is making me very uncomfortable. I have watched Mitt Romney change positions with an alarming regularity; his only consistency seems to be that he is inconsistent. What worries me even more than his inconsistency seems to be the fact that his tactic is working. What does this say about our society - that it is OK to change positions depending on the audience? My only wish is that I knew what Mitt Romney believed in.
Obama isn't a perfect candidate. But overall, he has consistently espoused values that I believe in. He has worked to reform healthcare, to pass laws that provide a path to citizenship for the undocumented youth in this country. He has worked to increase funding for research and come out in support of gay marriage. He signed the Lilly Ledbetter Act into law, which provides women with more options for fighting pay discrimination. Even more than that, he has shown a willingness to work with the other side. I am tired of watching ideologies and in-fighting stand in the way of practical solutions for this country. From what I have seen over the past four years, he is a person who is working to make a better life for everyone in this country. My vote for Obama - which I cast yesterday - was in support of what he has achieved as president, as well as the values he espouses.
I had hoped this election would be about the issues. Instead, this election has been more about sound-bites and zingers. In Mitt Romney, I don't see a candidate that understands the issues of low-to-middle income families. He doesn't seem to understand what it is like to worry about paying for college or the challenges of finding a job without having connections or the challenges of finding affordable health insurance. He doesn't seem to understand the value of public services that help people in need. I have a huge respect for the private sector. However, the private sector is a profit-driven enterprise and with this comes certain limitations. I do not think disaster relief or educational enterprises (including public programming) are suited to the private sector. Given the staggering costs of health-care in this country - which is primarily a private-sector enterprise - I no longer think that health-insurance companies should be a profit-driven venture.
To quote Jon Huntsman Jr, "When was the last time we sat down as a people and talked about solutions?"
Tuesday, October 30, 2012
Hurricane Sandy
I just wanted to take the time to offer my condolences to those who are dealing with Hurricane Sandy. I grew up in the Northeast; many of my friends and family are still in the region. From what I can gather, they are all safe, although there has been quite a bit of flooding and power outages. I am also grateful to see our politicians laying aside their campaigning to deal with this disaster, as this is an issue that transcends partisanship.
If you want to help out with disaster relief - either by donating time, money, or blood - the Red Cross is a good resource. Anne-Marie, over at the blog "The Menacing Kitten", also offers some excellent tips for donating in the wake of a disaster.
If you want to help out with disaster relief - either by donating time, money, or blood - the Red Cross is a good resource. Anne-Marie, over at the blog "The Menacing Kitten", also offers some excellent tips for donating in the wake of a disaster.
Thursday, October 25, 2012
The American Dream And Mormonism
The American dream – or at least, my interpretation of the American dream – is that if a person works hard enough, then that work will lead them to a better life. And by that standard, Mormonism is intrinsically American. I grew up with the idea that if I worked hard enough, then the blessings of Heaven were available to me. I grew up in a religion that placed an emphasis on good works and deeds. An oft-quoted scripture verse during my childhood, taken out of the Book of Mormon, was the verse 3 Nephi 12:16
Therefore let your light so shine before this people, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father who is in heaven
Therefore let your light so shine before this people, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father who is in heaven
Within the Mormon faith, good works have adopted a very standard definition. As a teenager, good works meant following the Word of Wisdom, obeying the morality guidelines, and participating in all of the activities expected of the youth. As a teenager, I worked on projects for the Young Womens’ association, I attended a daily scripture study in the hour before school started, and I attended weekly youth activities. As a girl, my life’s path was drawn out for me – marriage in the temple to a worthy Mormon male, child-rearing, home-making, church callings, and regular worship. All of the lessons in church prepared me for the future I was expected to take up. The men also had parallel lives sketched out for them – college, full-time missionary work, marriage, church callings, career, and the day-to-day demands of Mormonism. When Mormons grow into adulthood, the idea of good works is expanded to include temple marriage, family, church callings, and tithing. When Mormons go through their endowment ceremony – an expected rite of passage – they swear an oath to consecrate everything to the Lord.
The good works portion of Mormonism is time-consuming, more so than many people realize. Positions within the Mormon Church are staffed almost exclusively by volunteers, all of whom have their day jobs to perform. In addition to their volunteer work, members are expected to tithe 10% of their income, perform regular temple work, raise large families, pray and read their scriptures regularly, and attend a variety of church activities. In return for fulfilling all of these obligations, the leaders have promised many blessings. Growing up, my elders taught me that the only road to true happiness was found within the Mormon Church.
There is both beauty and virtue in hard work. Hard work has led me to accomplish many things in my life. However, hard work cannot fix everything - hard work cannot change the fundamentals of a person’s personality or undo the random variations of luck. And sometimes, what is considered as broken is not, in fact, anything that needs to be changed. I grew up with the sense that I was flawed, simply because I did not conform to the ideals of Mormon womanhood. I was not gentle or motherly or sympathetic or good with household duties. The thought of a lifetime of homemaking and rearing a huge family filled me a sense of helpless terror. I did not possess any of the traits that were expected of a good virtuous Mormon girl.
The good works portion of Mormonism is time-consuming, more so than many people realize. Positions within the Mormon Church are staffed almost exclusively by volunteers, all of whom have their day jobs to perform. In addition to their volunteer work, members are expected to tithe 10% of their income, perform regular temple work, raise large families, pray and read their scriptures regularly, and attend a variety of church activities. In return for fulfilling all of these obligations, the leaders have promised many blessings. Growing up, my elders taught me that the only road to true happiness was found within the Mormon Church.
There is both beauty and virtue in hard work. Hard work has led me to accomplish many things in my life. However, hard work cannot fix everything - hard work cannot change the fundamentals of a person’s personality or undo the random variations of luck. And sometimes, what is considered as broken is not, in fact, anything that needs to be changed. I grew up with the sense that I was flawed, simply because I did not conform to the ideals of Mormon womanhood. I was not gentle or motherly or sympathetic or good with household duties. The thought of a lifetime of homemaking and rearing a huge family filled me a sense of helpless terror. I did not possess any of the traits that were expected of a good virtuous Mormon girl.
The fact that I did not conform to the ideals of Mormonism meant that I grew up thinking that there was something fundamentally wrong with me. I tried to be faithful, to prepare myself for a future that did not fit who I was but that I was assured was God’s plan for me. I acknowledge that I have many flaws; I am stubborn and oblivious to the social cues that other people navigate with ease. But working to change the fundamentals of my personality – the part of me that sensed that the future sketched out for me by my religious leaders was not the right future for me – is a battle that is both futile and unnecessary.
Monday, October 22, 2012
The Great Unknown
It is said that –
Enlightenment appears dark
The progressive way appears retrograde
The smooth way appears jagged
The highest peak of revelation appears empty
like a valley
The cleanest appears to be soiled
The greatest abundance appears to be
insufficient
The most enduring inner strength appears like
weakness
And creativity appears imitative
Excerpt, Verse 41,
Tao Te Ching by Lao Tzu
Sometimes, action requires heading into the great unknown, with no idea of what the outcome is. I am the type of person that likes to think and research my decisions, making careful plans as to what my next course of action will be. But there will always come a time when no amount of planning prepares you for what life throws at you. As a young teenager, I never intended to leave the Mormon Church. Then my questions started heading down a strange path, one that was both frightening and freeing, all at once. Now, ten years and one major auto-pedestrian accident later, I am preparing to head down another unknown path, one that involves a career change and graduate school in an alternate subject. I don’t know where this path will lead me. But sometimes, when all the research is done, all of the questions answered, the only course of action left is to jump into the unknown, with the hope that everything will turn out all right in the end.
Friday, October 19, 2012
Grieving The Loss Of Community And Trust
I lost
my faith when I was sixteen. I lived in
secret for a full year, afraid of the consequences of leaving. When I did muster the courage to leave
Mormonism, the fall-out was even worse than I feared. The activities and obligations of Mormonism are
all-consuming; between the restrictions that publicly marked me as Mormon and
the time-intensive church activities, Mormonism was an identity, a community,
and a way of life. Where I grew up,
Mormons were a minority; at school, I was the non-drinking, non-swearing Mormon
girl who woke up at 5:30 every morning to attend an early-morning seminary
class.
Then I
left and the community I was raised in crumbled around me. I grew up with Mormons; they were my family
friends, my school-mates and comrades. I
saw them on a daily or weekly basis; we shared the common bond of being a
minority group. I knew that leaving
would cause a rift but little did I know just how much. My conversations with people I had known for
a lifetime suddenly became missionary-based.
In spite of a lifetime of faithful church attendance – and being
respected as a good teenager – the conversations became about assessing my
level of knowledge and my worthiness.
The perception is that members only leave because they are sinful,
prideful, deluded by Satan, or ignorant of the Gospel. After leaving, the questions I was asked
indicated that members were trying to assess which category I fit into. I was never asked my reasons for leaving; I was merely asked to come back into the fold.
Sometimes
I miss being a part of a community.
Mormonism, for all of its flaws, has the benefit of being a strong
community. Members look after each
other; if someone is in trouble, people will volunteer their time and effort to
help out. When my brother was building a
house, the missionaries and members were there every Saturday, volunteering
their time to help out. I have seen my
brothers volunteer their time to help members move. I have a lot of respect for the hard-work and
dedication of Mormons.
But leaving – and dealing with the
associated consequences – has left me with a slew of trust issues. I never dreamed that I would lose lifelong relationships
so quickly after leaving. I never
dreamed that the people who had known me a life-time would make such quick
assumptions about my character, simply because I left. I never dreamed that I would lose the respect
of my parents so quickly, in spite of an abundance of evidence that indicated I
was a good kid. Mormonism is an
all-consuming identity; you are either all-in or all-out. Issues are phrased in black and white – you
are either pro-Mormon or anti-Mormon. By
crossing that divide, I was forced to abandon Mormonism altogether. This experience has left me skittish about
communities at large. Perhaps this fear
is logical. Perhaps it isn’t. Either way, the fear is still there.
There is a grieving process
associated with losing a community. At
first I was angry. On some level, I
still am, as Mormon teachings have an “us versus them” mentality that makes
interfaith relationships tricky, if not impossible. But most of all, I am sad. I am sad that I no longer have anything in
common with the people I grew up with. I
grieve that there is a divide between us that I cannot cross.
Monday, October 15, 2012
Perfect Mormon Girl
When I was nine years old, I had a friend named Laura.* Laura was a year older than I was; her parents were friends with mine. Between church and ward activities, Laura and I were thrown together a lot. I worshiped Laura; she was a year older than me, which to a nine-year old meant that she was wiser. She had silky brown hair, clear skin, and was very attentive about her clothing - boys and adults alike seemed to like her. Laura graced me with her friendship and I responded eagerly. We would skip sacrament meeting together and wander the halls to talk. She was a boy-crazy girl; most of our conversations were centered around the boys that she liked and her philosophy on life.
In hindsight, I now recognize our friendship to be toxic. Laura was older, yes. She was pretty, yes. But she was also extremely insecure. She needed someone to make her feel good about herself. As a shy, chubby girl with hero-worship shining in her eyes, I fit the ticket. Anything I would do, Laura would claim to have done better. If I was excited about getting an A on a test, then she would tell me about the A+ she had gotten on her latest test. If I swam a lap in sixty seconds, she would say she swam it in thirty. I say ‘claim’ because there was never any evidence that she was telling the truth. At that age, however, I lacked the cynicism to challenge her assertions.
Laura moved away the following year. Years later I met Laura again only to find her exactly the same as before. We met up at her parent’s house in Utah. Laura had married at seventeen, to a guy in the Army. She had a young child. She showed me picture after picture of her husband, trying to impress upon me just how wonderful he was. After saying hello to her family, we left to go visit some of her friends.
Once we were in the car, Laura said “OK, I have to ask before we do anything. Do you still go to church?”
"No, I haven't gone in years." I said.
“Oh good.” she said. “We can have fun then.”
“Why did you stop going?” I asked.
“It was too hard.” she said. “I just couldn’t be the perfect Mormon girl.”
And for a moment, I understood her completely.
*name has been changed
In hindsight, I now recognize our friendship to be toxic. Laura was older, yes. She was pretty, yes. But she was also extremely insecure. She needed someone to make her feel good about herself. As a shy, chubby girl with hero-worship shining in her eyes, I fit the ticket. Anything I would do, Laura would claim to have done better. If I was excited about getting an A on a test, then she would tell me about the A+ she had gotten on her latest test. If I swam a lap in sixty seconds, she would say she swam it in thirty. I say ‘claim’ because there was never any evidence that she was telling the truth. At that age, however, I lacked the cynicism to challenge her assertions.
Laura moved away the following year. Years later I met Laura again only to find her exactly the same as before. We met up at her parent’s house in Utah. Laura had married at seventeen, to a guy in the Army. She had a young child. She showed me picture after picture of her husband, trying to impress upon me just how wonderful he was. After saying hello to her family, we left to go visit some of her friends.
Once we were in the car, Laura said “OK, I have to ask before we do anything. Do you still go to church?”
"No, I haven't gone in years." I said.
“Oh good.” she said. “We can have fun then.”
“Why did you stop going?” I asked.
“It was too hard.” she said. “I just couldn’t be the perfect Mormon girl.”
And for a moment, I understood her completely.
*name has been changed
Thursday, October 11, 2012
Why Does My State Have A Law Preventing Me From Holding Public Office?
Texas Longhorns |
I have never considered politics as a serious career option. I have always held an optimistic view of what public servants can accomplish and given my diverse background, I’ve always thought I could add something to the public sphere. I am an agnostic with a Mormon family and Hindu in-laws; respecting religious differences is a part of my day-to-day life. I understand what it means to worry about paying for college and what it means to grow up in a family without money or connections. Watching my husband – a very remarkable individual – navigate the murky immigration system of this country has given me a deeper sympathy for the realities of immigrant life. I have a deep respect for education; I believe no individual should be held back from pursuing educational opportunities because of an inability to pay. I am a wife, a daughter, a neighbor, an intellectual, and a dreamer. I am, at my core, an American; I believe that people should be given the opportunities to work hard and succeed in life. However, there is the reality of being elected; I have never considered myself to be a serious candidate for public office.
Why then, does it hurt so much to
find out that the state I live in has a clause in their state constitution that
bans a person like me – a nontheist – from holding public office? Article 1, Section 4 of the Texas Constitution states “No religious test
shall ever be required as a qualification to any office, or public trust, in
this State; nor shall any one be excluded from holding office on account of his
religious sentiments, provided he acknowledge the existence of a Supreme Being.”
So, in theory, if I were to run for
public office in Texas and win, I would be required to acknowledge the presence
of a Supreme Being. I am an agnostic; I
don’t know if there is a higher power or not. I do, however, believe that lying is
wrong. I cannot see myself acknowledging
something that I do not believe to be true.
In my mind, that is a lie.
Throughout my life, there have been
many obstacles to becoming the person that I am today. As a girl being raised in the Mormon faith, I
was told not to dream of higher education or a career; as a woman, becoming a
mother and a housewife was my duty in life.
As someone who decided to leave the Mormon Church, I ran up against the many
prejudices against people who make the decision to leave. As the seventh child in a lower middle class
family, I had to fight to make it through college without financial assistance
from my parents. This fight was ultimately
successful through a combination of hard work and the generosity of
scholarships.
For every road-block in life, there
was a solution available to me. I spent
a lot of time thinking about who I was and what I believed in; when I figured out
the answer, I acted in a manner that was true to who I am as a person, in spite
of the negative consequences. But never,
in all of my years, have I come up against a law that specifically bans someone
of my beliefs from a career choice. And
that is what hurts the most; that the state I have chosen to reside in has taken
the official stance that, as a non-theist, I am not capable or worthy of
holding public office.
I may never be in a position where
this law becomes an issue. However, I
can verify that there are many other non-theists out there who can contribute
to the public sphere in a valuable and lasting manner. Why is my state banning them from holding public
office?
Thursday, October 4, 2012
When Will The Mormon Church Stop Labeling Historical Fact As "Anti-Mormon"?
A couple weeks ago, I reported on the pending excommunication of David Twede, managing editor of the website MormonThink. I am happy to say that his excommunication hearing for September 30th was postponed, although authorities reserve the right to re-schedule the hearing for a later date.
As with most of these situations, the details that emerged added a further complexity to the story. David was new to his role as managing editor; the previous editor, one of the founders of the site, was forced last month to resign his church membership under threat of pending excommunication. In support of David, this editor has decided to share his story on MormonThink. In his statement, he discloses a letter he wrote to the local stake president, stating his intention to resign rather than face excommunication. In this letter, he makes the following point
“You said that MT (MormonThink) is “anti-Mormon, anti-Joseph Smith and anti-LDS Leadership”. However, you never said it wasn’t true. The majority of the source material comes from the Church itself, so how can publishing true, historical facts be considered anti-Mormon?”
The official reasons for David’s excommunication hearing are murky. The letter that was delivered to David cite apostasy as the reason for his pending church court trial. David describes the interrogation by local leaders to be concerning articles he published between the dates of September 11th and 15th. One of these articles was a piece about Romney’s faith. Although Romney was never mentioned in the meeting between David Twede and local ecclesiastical leaders, the leader did state “I’m not a political man…”, indicative of the idea that the unspoken issue is likely connected to David Twede’s commentary on Romney’s faith. The reason cited for David’s excommunication was David’s e-mail to another member in the ward, where he provided links to Mormon history, one concerning the controversial subject of the Book of Abraham. However, although this was cited as a reason for disciplinary action, it should be noted that the link that David provided another member was written by the Foundation for Apologetic Information and Research (FAIR). The person who identified David Twede and forwarded David's writing to Church headquarters was Scott Gordon, president of FAIR.
I have been watching this situation unfold, from David’s first post on September 11th detailing his experience at church; to his post labeled “The Hammer of Laban”, where he indicated he was facing an unidentified disciplinary action; to the removal of his personal blog; to the news discussed on ex-Mormon forums of his pending excommunication hearing; to the media coverage of the situation; to the post-ponement of the hearing.
Last month, I had a conversation with my mother about my reservations concerning the actions of church leaders. When I cited the September Six - and explained who they are – as a reason for my reservations, my mother told me that I couldn’t hold past actions against Church leaders. But here we are, twenty years after the September Six, and once again Mormon authorities seem quick to punish any members whose actions don’t conform to the standard script, provided that this punishment doesn’t lead to bad PR. Once again, the authorities seem loathe to confront the murky history of Mormonism.
MormonThink is a valuable resource, as the website provides information about Mormonism that is not discussed in church. There are so many aspects to Mormonism that I only learned about after leaving – their link with Freemasonry, the fact of Joseph’s multiple wives, the multiple versions of the First Vision. There are also many aspects of Mormon history that Mormon authorities downplay or ignore – the historical reasons for the priesthood ban on blacks, the teachings on blacks by previous authorities, the supposed translation of the Book of Abraham. MormonThink strives to discuss all of these issues. These are all issues that Mormons need to know; the decision to support a religious institution is one that should be made with full knowledge.
For now, the David Twede story is closed. The true test will come after the public eye is off the actions of Mormon authorities. When that happens, what will their actions reflect? Will the authorities continue to punish anyone that does not stick to the faith-promoting script? Or will they confront their history – all of it – in a manner that leads to a more tolerant, more human religion?
When will the Mormon Church stop labeling historical fact as anti-Mormon?
Monday, October 1, 2012
Book Review: Mormon Diaries
The Mormon Diaries traces the
journey of the author Sophia L. Stone through her life as a Mormon woman to her
eventual abandonment of Mormonism for a broader interpretation of Christianity. Written as a challenge to write daily about
the author’s life experiences and expanded into 28 chronological essays, this
book explores the reality of being a woman within the confines of Mormonism. As with all good memoirs, this story is about
a journey, a period of time where the author challenges her thoughts and
arrives at a new understanding.
Stone details her life growing up
in a Mormon family; the challenges and comforts of growing up in a religion
that provides a complete road map to life.
As she writes “Everything
important was drawn out for me through living prophets. All I had to do was use the thick, black
marker of my choices to trace the lightly penciled sentences that were written
by those with authority, who’d lived longer and knew better about my life’s
purpose.”
Stone details the realities of life
as a Mormon woman in a way that is very intimate and real. She relates her anxiety surrounding her
baptism and testimony, the challenges of finding the right husband, as well as
the manner in which her identity became wrapped up in being the nurturer, at
the cost of her own needs and desires.
There is a list of Mormon “Thou shalts” – starting with “Thou shalt keep
the Sabbath day holy” and ending with “Thou shalt not doubt, ever” – that spans
a full four pages and serves as a brilliant reminder of what the realities of
living a Mormon life is like.
The author also tackle the thorny
issue of leaving the Mormon Church – the dismay and confusion of loved ones, the
strain that her journey left on her marriage, the delicate navigation of
religion with her children. There is a deep
thoughtfulness in this book, along with a lot of love for family and friends. Towards the end, the author bears her new and
expanded testimony:
“I
believe God loves me and that he can save everyone. I believe there’s light and goodness in all
religions, in all traditions, and in all people.”
Mormon Diaries is available on both Kindle
and Nook for $0.99, as well as in paperback form for $8.99
Saturday, September 29, 2012
Who Owns The Term Mormon?
What I find interesting about this reaction is the fact that polygamy was an integral part of early Mormonism. Joseph Smith – the founder of the Mormon Church and considered to be a modern-day Prophet, Seer, and Revelator – married an estimated 33 women. His successor, Brigham Young, had an estimated 55 wives. The third leader of the Mormon Church, John Taylor, had seven wives. In 1882, when the U.S. government began cracking down on polygamy in Utah, there was a lot of confusion within the church. John Taylor – leader of the church at the time - wrote a document in 1886 that fundamentalists argue affirms the permanency of plural marriage. In 1890 the Mormon president Wilford Woodruff issued a Manifesto disavowing the practice of polygamy. Polygamy was still practiced in secret, with some Mormons choosing to move to either Canada or Mexico to continue the practice of plural marriage. Eventually, after much controversy, the President Joseph Fielding Smith issued the Second Manifesto in 1904, which once again disavowed the practice.
Fundamentalist Mormons still believe in and practice polygamy. The difference between fundamentalist Mormons and mainstream Mormons is that fundamentalists do not believe the 1890 Manifesto was a divine revelation. Instead, they point to the 1886 revelation by John Taylor that re-iterates the permanence of God’s commandments, one of which they argue is the practice of polygamy. In a nutshell, the only difference between mainstream Mormon and fundamentalist Mormons is the fact that fundamentalist Mormons believe in a literal interpretation of the past Mormon leaders, rather than following the leaders that came after John Taylor. When Martin Luther split off from the Roman Catholic Church, he did not lose the right to call himself a follower of the Bible and Jesus Christ; neither should fundamentalist Mormons lose the right to call themselves followers of Joseph Smith and the Book of Mormon.
Furthermore, LDS members do believe polygamy exists in Heaven – they just don’t believe in practicing polygamy on Earth, where the laws of the land prohibit the practice. Growing up, I was taught that if a man was widowed, he could be sealed in an eternal marriage to another wife. When he went to Heaven, he would be reunited with all of his wives. Mormons believe that only married people can gain access to the highest level of Heaven. We were assured that if we didn’t receive the opportunity to be married in this life, then we would have the opportunity to get married in the next life. There was, however, no assurance that the celestial marriage would be monogamous.
This begs the question – what defines the term Mormon? Are the members of the mainstream Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints the only people who can lay claim to the term Mormon? Or does this term extend to all the sects that follow the teachings of the early leaders and the Book of Mormon?
Even those who still practice polygamy?
Tuesday, September 25, 2012
Follow The Prophet
Members of the Church of Jesus
Christ Of Latter-Day Saints – more commonly referred to as Mormon - believe
that their leader is a modern-day Prophet, imbued with the power of revelation
from God. With this teaching of modern-day revelation is the burden to
always follow the teachings of the authorities, as their dictates come from the
Almighty God himself.
I was raised in a family with a
literal interpretation of Mormonism. My father was convinced that one day
the U.S. government would fail and that Americans would turn to the Mormon
leaders for guidance; that one day the entire world would know of and gravitate
towards the Mormon faith; that modern-day revelation was real and that visions
were a fact of life. Above all, the President of the Mormon Church is
venerated as the mouthpiece of God, qualified to receive revelations for the
entire church.
The lessons on un-wavering
obedience to Mormon authorities start at an early age. In the official
lesson manual of the Mormon Church is a lesson titled “Follow
The Prophet”, aimed towards the youth of the Church. One of the
quotes drawn from this lesson is by Marion G. Romney, talking about the past
President and Prophet Heber J Grant:
“I
remember years ago when I was a bishop I had President Grant talk to our ward.
After the meeting, I drove him home. … When we got to his home I got out of the
car and went up on the porch with him. Standing by me, he put his arm over my
shoulder and said: ‘My boy, you always keep your eye on the President of the
Church, and if he ever tells you to do anything, and it is wrong, and you do
it, the Lord will bless you for it.’ Then with a twinkle in his eye, he said,
‘But you don’t need to worry. The Lord will never let his mouthpiece lead the
people astray"
Marion G Romney, in Conference Report, October 1960, pg 78
Or as I sang as a little girl in
Primary – “Follow the Prophet, follow the Prophet. Follow the Prophet, he
knows the way.” When my Primary teachers talked of the apostles and
the prophet, I imagined the bearded sandal-clad, linen-clothed men of the New
Testament. I was shocked when I realized the apostles and prophet of whom
my teachers spoke of were in fact the old white guys that showed up on the
screen twice a year during the world-wide televised General Conferences.
Then I grew up and I began to crush under the burden of trying to follow the
leaders’ will, as their teachings on the role of womanhood and striving for
perfection stuffed me into a tiny little box that just didn’t fit.
Like Cinderella’s ugly step-sisters, to fit into the narrow box of Mormon
womanhood I needed to chop off pieces of me that just couldn’t fit inside that
box.
The Mormon Church’s
approach to dealing with the messy history of the prophets’ teachings is to
deny the fact or to claim that the teachings of current prophets outweigh the
teachings of old prophets. The Foundation for Apologetic Information
& Research (FAIR) made the following statement when
addressing the messy and very uncomfortable topic of the teachings about race
within Mormonism
Past church leaders should be viewed as products of their times,
no more racist than most of their American and Christian peers (and often
surprisingly enlightened, given the surrounding culture). A proper
understanding of the process of revelation creates a more realistic
expectations of the Latter-day Saint prophet, instead of assumptions of
infallibility foisted on the Saints by their critics.
Previous statements and scriptural interpretations that are no
longer in harmony with current revelation should be discarded. We learn
"line upon line, precept upon precept," and when modern revelation
has shed new light, old assumptions made in the dark can be done away with.”
To combat the openness of the
Internet era, where the messy history of the Mormon Church is easily accessible
and a source of chagrin to many faithful Mormons, members are now justifying
that these leaders were “speaking as a man” or that certain beliefs are “folk
doctrine”. There is no way to draw a distinction between a leader
“speaking as a man” or “speaking for God” – these distinctions all depend on
the convictions of the individual interpreting the quotes, as well as the
potential embarrassment factor of the quote. And once again, I would like
reiterate the lesson that the Prophet is considered the mouthpiece qualified to
receive revelation from God for the entire church and that as members we were
taught that the Prophet will never lead us astray.
Perhaps Heber J Grant was “speaking
as a man” when he had that conversation with Marion G Romney. Or perhaps
Marion G Romney was “speaking as a man” when he gave that speech. Or
perhaps all of the talks by the authorities that I attended as a youth will one
day be dismissed as been “spoken as a man, rather than from God”. But how
can members distinguish between the two? How do members balance the past
teachings of the Prophets with the idea that the Prophet will never lead his
people astray? Were the Prophets leading the people astray with their
teachings on race? Was the Prophet leading the people astray with
Proposition 8? And if members don't agree with the teachings of the
Prophet, what about the consequences of challenging authority? But to
admit that the Prophets can lead the people astray is to strike at the very
root of Mormonism itself – question the legitimacy of the Prophets’ teachings and
you question the very foundation of Mormonism.
Some members are able to shrug off
the confusions of doctrine, focusing instead on the good points – the plan of
Salvation, the idea of eternal families, the idea of Christian love. But
I was not one of those members; I was a member that took the teachings
literally. My literal interpretation of the leaders – enforced by the
attitudes of members around me – turned me into a person at war between my
conscience and the teachings of my leaders.
Friday, September 21, 2012
Mormon Editor - And Romney Critic - Faces Excommunication
David Twede - managing editor of the website MormonThink and a Mormon in good standing - is now facing an excommunication hearing on September 30th as a result of a series of articles he wrote discussing Mitt Romney’s faith, along with the intersection of Mormonism and politics. MormonThink is a website written by active members of the Church of Jesus Christ Of Latter-Day Saints – commonly referred to as Mormons -who are seeking to create an open dialogue about Mormon history. Their mission statement is:
[To promote] Education and openness of our religion's unique history and heritage. If people want to learn about the true historical issues of the church, that they won't hear about in Sunday School, they can learn about them here. We aren't afraid to discuss the tough issues. We hope to make the church we grew up in a better place by making it more honest.
Our goal would be that no knowledgeable member should have to be afraid to speak the truth in church to avoid offending a naive member with the truth about polygamy, the BOM translation process, Masonry, or any other historical aspect of the Church. We want the Church leaders to be 100% open and honest with the members so we can be 100% open and honest with our children, families, friends, investigators and fellow members.
By necessity, the MormonThink authors have to remain anonymous. In 1992, the Mormon Church excommunicated or dis-fellowshipped six prominent intellectuals, known as the September Six, for publishing scholarly works that were not aligned with the Mormon Church’s official teachings. This was a prominent example, however, over the years there have been other examples of sanctions taken against member. Grant Palmer, who spent 34 years working as an educator for the Church Education System, was dis-fellowshipped for publishing the book “An Insider’s View Of Mormon Origins” and later forced to resign under threat of excommunication. Although the accuracy of these scholarly works have not been questioned the issue is the fact that these books paint the early history of Mormonism in a manner that is not faith-promoting. Boyd K. Packer, who is the acting President of the Quorum of the Twelve, has stated "Some things that are true are not very useful." In this spirit, the Mormon Church seeks to preserve the faith of their members at the cost of historical accuracy. Members are instructed to only read history that has been sanctioned by the Church; all other sources are thought to be Satan’s way of leading the faithful astray.
There are two articles that lead to David Twede being threatened with excommunication. One article is titled “The History Of LDS Politics”, which delves into the relationship the Mormon Church has had with politics, Prop 8 being only a small blip on a long history of political interference. The second article that is sparking controversy is titled “Mitt Romney’s Faith”, which discusses his beliefs as a Mormon.
David Twede has made the following statement on his blog concerning the matter:
“Open and honest dialogue will allow members to choose, according to their agency, whether these facts are too troubling or in the end, humanizing. What do I mean? If we learn that the prophets are just as human, just as weak as we are, perhaps we will not feel anxious about our imperfections. Perhaps we will be more at ease in the church and more tolerant. Yes, I believe an honest view of Joseph Smith's weaknesses and by opening the facts it will bring love and tolerance to the wider membership of the church because they will lose their need to feel inadequate about imperfections in themselves and others. The Mormon Church needs to jettison Perfection Syndrome.
That is Christianity at its best, I think.”
[To promote] Education and openness of our religion's unique history and heritage. If people want to learn about the true historical issues of the church, that they won't hear about in Sunday School, they can learn about them here. We aren't afraid to discuss the tough issues. We hope to make the church we grew up in a better place by making it more honest.
Our goal would be that no knowledgeable member should have to be afraid to speak the truth in church to avoid offending a naive member with the truth about polygamy, the BOM translation process, Masonry, or any other historical aspect of the Church. We want the Church leaders to be 100% open and honest with the members so we can be 100% open and honest with our children, families, friends, investigators and fellow members.
By necessity, the MormonThink authors have to remain anonymous. In 1992, the Mormon Church excommunicated or dis-fellowshipped six prominent intellectuals, known as the September Six, for publishing scholarly works that were not aligned with the Mormon Church’s official teachings. This was a prominent example, however, over the years there have been other examples of sanctions taken against member. Grant Palmer, who spent 34 years working as an educator for the Church Education System, was dis-fellowshipped for publishing the book “An Insider’s View Of Mormon Origins” and later forced to resign under threat of excommunication. Although the accuracy of these scholarly works have not been questioned the issue is the fact that these books paint the early history of Mormonism in a manner that is not faith-promoting. Boyd K. Packer, who is the acting President of the Quorum of the Twelve, has stated "Some things that are true are not very useful." In this spirit, the Mormon Church seeks to preserve the faith of their members at the cost of historical accuracy. Members are instructed to only read history that has been sanctioned by the Church; all other sources are thought to be Satan’s way of leading the faithful astray.
There are two articles that lead to David Twede being threatened with excommunication. One article is titled “The History Of LDS Politics”, which delves into the relationship the Mormon Church has had with politics, Prop 8 being only a small blip on a long history of political interference. The second article that is sparking controversy is titled “Mitt Romney’s Faith”, which discusses his beliefs as a Mormon.
David Twede has made the following statement on his blog concerning the matter:
“Open and honest dialogue will allow members to choose, according to their agency, whether these facts are too troubling or in the end, humanizing. What do I mean? If we learn that the prophets are just as human, just as weak as we are, perhaps we will not feel anxious about our imperfections. Perhaps we will be more at ease in the church and more tolerant. Yes, I believe an honest view of Joseph Smith's weaknesses and by opening the facts it will bring love and tolerance to the wider membership of the church because they will lose their need to feel inadequate about imperfections in themselves and others. The Mormon Church needs to jettison Perfection Syndrome.
That is Christianity at its best, I think.”
MormonThink is a valuable resource; the website is run by active Mormons and gives members the opportunity to learn about the full history of their faith in an honest and balanced manner. The editors strive to approach the issues from all possible angles, allowing both sides of the story to be heard.
Resources:
MormonThink: an excellent resource on the history of the Mormon Church
David Twede's blog, where he discusses his pending excommunication hearing and the events leading up to matter
The History Of LDS Politics: A full accounting of the intersection of the Mormon Church and political matters
Mitt Romney's Faith: The specifics of Romney's beliefs as a Mormon
Resources:
MormonThink: an excellent resource on the history of the Mormon Church
David Twede's blog, where he discusses his pending excommunication hearing and the events leading up to matter
The History Of LDS Politics: A full accounting of the intersection of the Mormon Church and political matters
Mitt Romney's Faith: The specifics of Romney's beliefs as a Mormon
Tuesday, September 18, 2012
Blessings & Tithing
As far back
as I can remember, the leaders have promised that if a person has the faith to
pay tithing, then “the Lord will open the windows of Heaven and pour out his richest blessings”. Leaders repeat this promise
over and over, in different permutations of the original revelation on tithing made by the
leader Lorenzo Snow, who promised that if members had the faith to pay tithing, then rain would come to rescue the crops from drought. Leaders talk about
how you can’t afford not to pay
tithing. They give examples of people
who paid tithing and were miraculously able to make ends meet. They promise - over and over - that having
the faith to pay your tithing will result in blessings.
And since
Mormons tend to be literal when interpreting the promises of their leaders,
this creates an odd dynamic. As we
repeated, over and over, “The Church is perfect. People aren’t.” Since the Church is perfect - and the
imperfection of people provide such an easy scapegoat - a lack of material
blessings is assumed to be correlated with a lack of faith.
My parents
were poor for many years. For them, paying tithing was
an extreme act of faith, as often the money that was paid to the Mormon Church
was needed to feed the family.
And yet paying tithing didn’t result in more material wealth. My parents struggled along, trying to make
the pennies match up, while performing the requirements of Mormonism with
diligence. The faith of my parents - to
pay tithing even when tithing was a struggle - is an awe-inspiring testament to
their commitment.
If you look
at the members that rank higher in hierarchy - bishopric, stake
presidency, General Authorities, Presidency - you will notice that these
leaders are notable more for their professional and financial success. Thomas S. Monson, the current President, was
an advertising executive and eventual general manager for Deseret News
Press. His first counselor, Henry B.Eyring, is a graduate of Harvard Business School and was a professor at
Stanford, as well as the president of Ricks College. His second counselor, Dieter F. Uchtdorf, was
a German aviator and airline executive.
These men were part of the middle to upper class, with significant
professional achievements, when they were recruited for leadership. I have no doubt that there are many good and
faithful men from modest backgrounds; however, these men do not seem to be
reflected in the makeup of the authorities that are responsible for guiding the
Mormon Church.
Within my own
ward, the leaders who were never from the “ragged” families - the families that
worked blue-collar jobs while following the command to have lots of children,
even if you couldn’t afford them. Most
of the leaders selected were either college professors or white-collar professionals. I didn’t notice much of a
difference between the leaders and the poorer families in terms of their
character or faith. But I did notice a
difference in which families were called to leadership positions.
For what it
was worth, I don’t think the stigma was applied to me, even though I was from a
poor family. I was a bright student and
enthusiastic about my studies. There
were a number of wonderful women that stepped in to support and guide me. But with the oft-repeated promises of
receiving blessings if you are faithful enough, there is the mindset that a
lack of blessings correlates with a lack of faith.
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Sunday, September 16, 2012
Separation of Church And State
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I am an agnostic. My family is Mormon. My husband is a Hindu who came to the U.S. for grad school. Within this spectrum of religious and cultural identities is the beauty and promise of the American dream; we are a nation of diversity and opportunity. We are a pluralistic society, one in which every individual’s religious and cultural identity should be respected. The strength of the United States is in the promise of tolerance for the entire spectrum of humanity.
Every-time I hear the intersection of politics and religion
– the insertion of “Under God” in the Pledge of Allegiance, the constant
refrain of “God Bless America” by politicians on both sides of the aisle, the
words of “In God We Trust” printed on our national currency – I find myself
wondering where the American ideal went astray.
Our nation was founded on the idea of a separation between church and
state. The First Amendment states that “Congress
shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion.”
Separation of church and state is not meant to tear down the
institution of religion; rather separation of church and state is meant to
foster an environment in which individuals feel comfortable worshipping
according to the dictates of their own conscience. The refrain of “under God” or “God bless
America” assumes many things, the least of which is a belief in a singular God.
This may feel like a small matter – the
removal of a few words that may or may not offend most people. But if these words are to be repeated in a
public environment, with the attendant pressure to follow along, then we need
to respect the idea that religion is a deeply personal and private matter. Religion does not belong in either the
government or government-funded institutions.
John F. Kennedy, in his 1960 address on religion, stated,
"I believe in an
America where the separation of church and state is absolute, where no Catholic
prelate would tell the president (should he be Catholic) how to act, and no
Protestant minister would tell his parishioners for whom to vote; where no
church or church school is granted any public funds or political preference;
and where no man is denied public office merely because his religion differs
from the president who might appoint him or the people who might elect him."
With this election cycle heating up, the controversy surrounding
candidates and their religion is only getting worse. God – and prayer – has been mentioned by both
Democrats and Republicans alike. I don’t
feel comfortable with the intersection of religion and politics; this is not
the country we were meant to be. We are
a far cry from the ideals upon which our nation was founded. If we are to truly become a nation where all
people may worship according to the dictates of their own conscience, then we
need to remove religious ideologies from the confines of government.
In the words of John F Kennedy: “Today I may be the victim, but tomorrow it may be you — until the
whole fabric of our harmonious society is ripped at a time of great national
peril.”
Tuesday, September 11, 2012
Commentary: "Women, Do Your Wifely Duty To Prevent Your Husband From Sin
Last week, there was a guest
post on the site Feminist Mormon Housewives that has left me speechless. I wasn’t planning on writing a commentary –
there are so many angles to discuss and so many uncomfortable points to the post – but I feel that I must, if for no other reason than that this issue needs to be addressed.
The
post is called Women’s Conference (Or Do Your Wifely Duty To Prevent Your Husband From Sin) This post details a
talk that a Mormon bishop gave on two separate occasions to the women of his
congregation. The author sat through the
first one in shock; the second time, a full year after the first talk, she came
armed with a notepad to record the bishop’s PowerPoint presentation and
accompanying lecture. Both of the
lessons had the implied message “Good Mormon women have regular sex with their
husbands in order to keep their marriages “happy” and keep their husbands from
sin.” The first time the bishop gave the
lesson, the title was “The Key To A Happy Marriage”, the second time the lesson
was simply referred to as the “Sex Talk”.
A
couple of nuggets from this bishop's lesson include
Next he puts up this
big picture of a line of german shepherds at a police academy. In front of this
line of dogs walks this little cat and it is obvious that all the dogs want to
do is pounce on the poor thing. Everyone giggles at what this picture is
suggesting and he continues on with his message. “This is a stupid cat. Luckily
these dogs are so well trained that they can fight against even their deepest
genetic desires and stay in line.” “But,” he said, “Just because they are
keeping formation doesn’t me they don’t REALLY want that cat. Trained dogs
STILL look at cats.”
“He then reminds
us that, “…there are women who WILL take your husband’s…” and Solomon says,
“…be ravished with your wife…” he goes on to add that if you won’t be ravished
with him, a stranger will.”
He tells the women
that all through young men’s lives there is a drumbeat going on in their heads
that says: “When I get married I can have sex…when I get married I can have
sex…when I get married I can have sex…” “I just need to hold on until a
beautiful wife lets me.”
(O…K…)
(O…K…)
He
tells us how often times the deprived spouse is loathing the thought of
eternity with his wife. The deprived spouse takes the sexual rejection as a
personal rejection and becomes resentful. And the deprived spouse is more
tempted when he is deprived.
I don’t
know what disturbs me most about this series of talks. I am disturbed by the fact that an entire
year went by between the bishop’s two talks with identical themes, with no
apparent backlash. I am also disturbed
by the fact that this bishop wasn’t fired or chastised and that there wasn’t
more of a backlash. Most of all, I am
deeply unsettled by the message that this particular authority figure gave to a
group of Mormon women.
There are two main points related
to Mormon practices that I would like to address, as I feel they are directly
related to this incident.
(1)
The majority
of local authority positions within the Mormon Church are filled by
volunteers. Bishops and stake
presidents, in addition to their day-job, also spend an additional 20+ hours
tending to the needs of their congregation.
These positions are considered to be divinely inspired; when a new
bishop or stake president is selected, the General Authorities will come and
interview possible candidates. The
General Authorities claim to have divine revelation when it comes to selecting
the right candidate. These bishops and
stake presidents receive very little training to perform their duties;
instead, they are told that the Holy Ghost will be their guide. Members look to their local leaders for
guidance on everything from marital issues to crises of faith, yet these
leaders are ill-equipped to carry out the roles they are assigned. This leads to a wide variation of leadership between wards.
(2)
Mormons have
very strict laws on chastity.
Pre-marital sex – and any forms of sensual foreplay – is strictly
forbidden within Mormonism. So is
masturbation and porn. Part of Mormonism
involves going through a temple recommend interview, starting at age 12 with
youth temple trips. During this
interview, a local authority will ask the interviewee about obeying the law of
chastity, including issues with masturbation and porn. As a woman, I was taught to safeguard my
virtue, as it was seen as a gift for my future husband. The lessons on chastity start at a young age
and only continue to intensify. As a
result of this repression, sex becomes a very twisted and uncomfortable topic
to address and is often associated with a sense of shame.
In addition
to these Mormon-specific points, there are also the aspects that apply to a
more general audience. There is the very
disturbing analogy of the German shepherds, trained not to attack the tasty
cat in spite of their instincts. There is also the idea that a woman
bears responsibility for her husband’s infidelities.
I simply do
not know how to react. I don’t know
where to start, what to address. All I
know is that reading this post made me upset in a way that I have not been in a
very long time. I wish I could write
satire about this bishop’s attitude like Donna Banta. I wish that I could write a sharp, incisive
commentary that distills this issue into a single point. Instead, all I
have to offer are a jumble of opinions and a need to talk about this
issue. Sex is not shameful. Women should not be blamed for the
infidelities of their husband; neither should they feel compelled to fake
desire at risk of losing their marriage.
Book Review: Nonbeliever Nation - The Rise of Secular Americans
In his
book Nonbeliever Nation, the author David Niose defines secular Americans as “individuals
that choose to live without religion, or at the very least, without theistic
religion.” Although the number of
self-identified agnostics and atheists in the U.S. is listed as 1.6% of the
population, the author points to the results of the American Religious Identification
Survey, which showed that 18.4% of the responders did not affirmatively claim
belief in a higher power. The author
argues this result is an indication that there are more secular Americans than
we realize.
This
book was both a history lesson as well as a reminder that secular Americans
need to be more open about their identity.
The author covers the early days of the United States, discussing and
refuting the widespread claim that the Founding Fathers meant for the United States
to be a Christian nation. A large part
of this book was also devoted to the recent rise of the Religious Right in
politics; the author points to the election of Reagan as a watershed moment for
the Religious Right. Reagan’s election
was aided by the formation of the organization Moral Majority by the
evangelical preacher Jerry Falwell; since then the dominance of religion in
politics has steadily increased to a point where omitting the mention of God
results in a huge backlash for a politician.
The dominant
theme for this book is the argument that secular Americans need to assert their
identity. A 2006 University of Minnesota
study found atheists to be the most feared minority in America, ranking behind
Muslims, gays, and recent immigrants.
With these attitudes is the attendant fear of associating with such a
misunderstood identity. However, the
author argues that by remaining quiet about our secularity, we have allowed the
national conversation to be dominated by a minority that actively spreads
misinformation about the dangers of non-believers.
This is
not a book that will de-convert anyone of their religious beliefs. Nor is this
a book that seeks to take away the right of any individual to worship according
to the dictates of their conscience.
However, this is a book that call for the separation of church and
state, as well as a reiteration of the need for secular Americans to
affirm their identity as people that live their lives without religion.
Nonbeliever Nation - The Rise of Secular Americans can be found in both e-book and hardcover at Amazon
, Barnes & Noble, and Powell's. The author is currently doing a book tour.
Friday, September 7, 2012
My Writing Companion
Meet Toby, my writing companion. He likes to sit by me when I work; most of the time he is jealous of the machine that demands so much of my attention.

If you would like to read more about how I got Toby, I did a guest post on the blog "Poetry Sans Onions" titled "Everyone Deserves A Second Chance", where I wrote about adopting Toby as a senior cat from the SPCA.
If you would like to read more about how I got Toby, I did a guest post on the blog "Poetry Sans Onions" titled "Everyone Deserves A Second Chance", where I wrote about adopting Toby as a senior cat from the SPCA.
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